A lot of gay people have faced that their entire lives – people telling them, ‘You can’t do that.’ Once you survive the experience of being told no or being told that what comes naturally to you is, by their definition, ‘unnatural’ – something happens in you that is wonderful. It forces you to work on a new definition for what is natural. And when you start to reassess yourself, you begin to reassess those who tell you ‘Thou shalt not.’ And when you do that, you start to reassess the whole fucking culture. And that’s a wonderful place to be.
William Blake said, ‘Make your own laws, or be a slave to another man’s.’ Homophobia is not going anywhere. […] The question is, are we made stronger by being other, or are we weakened as individuals by being other? My argument is that if we can stand up for the right to be other—and maybe that means being excluded from a party that isn’t very much fun anyway—then we are strong.